
Sixth Sunday After Pentecost - July 24, 2011
As of today, we are now about halfway through our several readings from Genesis on the life of Jacob, stories that have always been among my favorite in the Old Testament - especially this one. In this reading, Jacob meets and marries his two wives, Rachel and Leah. But how he gets there is rather unusual. While traveling in the country of his uncle Laban, Jacob meets and instantly falls in love with his beautiful cousin, Rachel. So he and Laban strike a deal where Jacob agrees to work for seven years, in exchange for which he’ll be given Rachel as his wife.
The seven years (as the story says) fly by, and the wedding night arrives. Only instead of giving him Rachel, Laban tricks Jacob by giving him his older daughter Leah. Somehow Jacob doesn’t figure out it’s the wrong woman until morning, and so he and Laban soon strike another deal where he’ll work an additional seven years for Rachel, who becomes his second wife.
Actually, after our reading, Jacob adds two more women – not officially wives – to his retinue of women, and between the four women they have twelve sons who become the twelve tribes of Israel (which we hear a lot about in the OT, and which become the basis for the twelve disciples in the NT).
Anyway, this story was obviously puzzling for me as a kid – and I’m sure was most vexing for my Sunday School teachers. For instance, we were taught in church that marriage was between one man and one woman and that was how God ordained it from the beginning of time; and yet here you have Jacob, the very father of the twelve tribes of Israel, with two wives and two concubines, as well.
I also remember being disgusted at twelve years old that Jacob fell in love with and married his cousins, Rachel and Leah. In fact, I distinctly remember asking my Sunday school teacher, Mr. Pendleton, about that, and his response was that there weren’t very many options in those days. (God bless all Sunday school teachers!)
But of course the biggest thing about this story that stumped my child’s mind was Laban’s trick. I didn’t really understand what went on at a wedding night, but I still knew it was pretty far-fetched to claim you didn’t even notice you were with the wrong person until the next morning.
But details, details. And once you manage to get past some of these oddities of the story, there are some good lessons to be found here. In this case, the most famous one is that this is a story about how we treat others. Two scenes before this one, Jacob had stolen his older brother’s birthright or inheritance by tricking their blind father into giving it to him, instead of his brother. And so what happens here is Jacob’s comeuppance.
If you were reading this in the context of the Bible, you would read these stories one after the other. And so you’d get that Laban his uncle deceives Jacob in much the same way he deceived his brother, and also that Laban rights Jacob’s wrong by putting the eldest daughter before the youngest – the very opposite of what Jacob did when he put himself before his brother Esau. If you didn’t get that, the two stories contain a lot of the same words and phrases, to remind you that they belong together. There are even some versions of it in the Jewish tradition where Leah actually scolds Jacob the morning after the wedding for what he did back home to his brother Esau. As if waking up with the wrong woman weren’t bad enough, he then has to sit through a long sermon.
So one point this story makes is that how we treat others is how we can expect to be treated in return, as Christ would later express in the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have done to you.
Another lesson that’s often taken from this story is about accepting things and people as they are, not as we wish they were. This is a slightly more creative reading, but it sees Rachel and a Leah as if two sides of the same person: Rachel is the person we think we’re getting; but Leah is the reality - the person we wake up beside the next morning. That person who isn’t quite what we thought we were getting can be a spouse – and usually is, as Andrew can tell you – but it can also be a friend, a family member, a job, or a church – even God. Anything or anyone in life that we’ve built expectations around, only to have them turn out differently.
And when we get to that place, there are two ways forward suggested in the story. The first comes in the words of Laban to Jacob, who tells him to stick around another seven years. That is, be patient, because eventually expectation and reality will meet.
The other way forward when reality confounds us is to train ourselves to see the beauty in it. I read a wonderful homily this week where the preacher talked about the ambiguous description of Leah’s eyes in this story. Our passage here calls them “lovely,” but the fact is, nobody knows what the Hebrew word describing her eyes really means. It could mean lovely, but, based on closely related words in the Hebrew Bible, it could also mean “weak” or even “ugly.”
To some extent, it’s our choice how we see the people and circumstances in our life. We can say they’re weak or ugly when they don’t turn out how we want, but we can also say they’re lovely. And to be able to see what life really gives us as beautiful is, I think, one of the challenges and triumphs of the Christian life.
In fact, when you think about it, Christianity is kind of built upon this notion. Christ himself disappointed many people who had much higher, loftier expectations of what a Savior was supposed to be. And when he didn’t turn out how they wanted, many shrugged him off as weak and never looked back. But a small band of disciples waited it out, until they saw that what Jesus brought to the world not as ugly or weak, but lovely – and ultimately far more powerful than even their highest expectations
But back to our story. “Leah’s eyes were lovely.” Next time things don’t turn out quite like you wanted, remember that line, and look again.